⽤英语解释⾼情商的12种表现
情商测试和培训机构TalentSmart的创始⼈特拉维·布拉德伯⾥列出了⼀些具备⾼情商的明显特征，欢迎对号⼊座。
01
拥有丰富的情感词汇
People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling "bad," emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel "irritable," "frustrated," "downtrodden," or "anxious."
⾼情商的⼈之所以可以掌控⾃⾝的情绪是因为他们能理解这些情绪，并可以⽤丰富的情感词汇来描述它们。当许多⼈仅仅⽤简单的词汇例如“不好”来描述⾃⾝的情绪时，⾼情商的⼈能够指出他们所感觉到的是“急躁”，“沮丧”，“压抑”还是“不安”。
The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it, and what you should do about it.
你使⽤情感类词汇越精确，就能越确切地了解⾃⼰内⼼的情绪，这些情绪产⽣的原因以及应对⽅法。
02
对他⼈感到好奇
It doesn't matter if they're introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ.
⽆论是内向型还是外向型的⼈，⾼情商者都会对⾝边的⼈感到好奇。这种好奇是源于同理⼼，是⾼情商的重要表现。
03
拥抱改变
Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness.
⾼情商的⼈是灵活多变并能随机应变的。他们知道害怕改变会⿇痹他们并极⼤地威胁他们的成功与幸福。
04
不易动怒
If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it's difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.
如果你对⾃⼰有充分的了解，他⼈的⾔语与举动是很难让你动怒的。⾼情商的⼈都很⾃信并且⼼胸开阔，所以脸⽪也就不会那么薄。
05
懂得如何拒绝
Research shows that the more difficulty that you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression.
研究表明，如果你觉得开⼝说“不”越难，你就越有可能经受更多的压⼒，崩溃甚⾄沮丧。
Saying no is indeed a major self-control challenge for many people. When it's time to say no, emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as "I don’t think I can" or "I'm not certain." Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
对于许多⼈来说，说“不”的确是⼀项对⾃控⼒的挑战。当该说“不”的时候，⾼情商的⼈会避免使⽤“我觉得我不⾏”或“我不确定”等这类的短语。对新的承诺说“不”会让你遵守现有的承诺，并让你有机会成功履⾏承诺。
06
不计较错误
Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.
⾼情商的⼈会和犯过的错误保持距离，但也不会遗忘它们。
07
付出且不求回报
When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression. For example, you might have an interesting conversation with someone about a book, and when you see them again a month later, you show up with the book in hand.
当某⼈主动送你东西，并不求回报时，会给你留下深刻印象。例如，你跟某⼈聊天时说起⼀本书，⽽且聊得很开⼼，⼀个⽉后再见到这个⼈时，你就带着书出现了。
Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.
⾼情商的⼈会与他⼈建⽴良好的⼈际关系，因为他们随时随地都在为他⼈着想。
08
不记仇
The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. When the threat is imminent, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when the threat is ancient history,
holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time.
带有仇恨的负⾯情绪实际上是⼀种压⼒反应。当威胁即将来临的时候，这种反应对你的⽣存⾄关重要。但当威胁已经远离的时候，你仍背负压⼒的话会伤害⾝体，长此以往，对⾝体健康也会造成损害。
In fact, researchers at Emory University have shown that holding onto stress contributes to high blood pressure and heart disease. Holding onto a grudge means you’re holding onto stress, and emotionally intelligent people know to avoid this at all costs.
事实上，艾默理⼤学的研究员指出，背负压⼒会导致⾼⾎压和⼼脏病。⼼怀仇怨意味着背负压⼒，⽽⾼情商的⼈懂得⽆论如何都要避免这些伤害。
09
中和消极⼈
Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check.
与难相处的⼈打交道会令⼤多数⼈感到沮丧和疲惫。但⾼情商的⼈在和消极⼈的交流过程中能克制⾃⼰的情绪。
They identify their own emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person's standpoint and are able to find solutions and common ground.
⾼情商的⼈能清楚辨别⾃⼰的情绪，避免发怒和沮丧以免⽕上浇油。同时他们也能考虑难相处的⼈的⽴场并能够出双⽅的共同话题和相处之道。
Even when things completely derail, emotionally intelligent people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.
甚⾄在事态已完全失控时，⾼情商的⼈对消极⼈的观点也会持保留态度，不会让他或她影响⾃⼰的⼼态。
10
不苛求完美
Emotionally intelligent people won't set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn't exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible.
⾼情商的⼈不会把完美当成⾃⼰追逐的⽬标，因为他们知道完美是不存在的。犯错是⼈类的本性。
When perfection is your goal, you're always left with a nagging sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish and what you should have done differently instead of moving forward, excited about what you've achieved and what you will accomplish in the future.
当你追求完美时，你总是会受到挫败感的困扰，这种挫败感会让你放弃或减少努⼒。最后你只会把时间都浪费在哀叹那些没能做成和本应做好的事情上，⽽不是继续前进，并对⾃⼰做成的事情和未来将要实现的事情⽽感到兴奋。
11
抽离
Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment. When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors.
⾼情商的⼜⼀表现就是学会定期与外界隔离，因为这将有助于你控制压⼒并活在当下。如果你每周7天
、每天24⼩时随时准备迎接⼯作，你将让⾃⼰遭受压⼒的持续轰炸。
12
不让任何⼈影响到你的好⼼情
When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they've done, they won't let anyone's opinions or snide remarks take that away from them.
当你的快乐和满⾜感源⾃他⼈对你的评价时，你就不再是能掌控⾃⾝幸福的主⼈了。⾼情商的⼈对⾃⼰所做的事感觉良好，不会轻易受他⼈观点或尖刻评论的影响。
好，不会轻易受他⼈观点或尖刻评论的影响。
While it's impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don't have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people's opinions with a grain of salt.
虽然你不可能对他⼈的评价充⽿不闻，但是你不必拿⾃⼰和其他⼈作⽐较，⽽且你可以对他⼈的观点
持保留态度。That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.
这样的话，⽆论别⼈想什么或做什么，都⽆所谓，因为你的⾃我价值感源于内⼼。
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