TED演讲《要成为更好的⾃⼰，请停⽌与他⼈⽐较》【每⽇分享Vol.543】
我们周围经常会有很多优秀的⼈，拥有超强的能⼒，超精彩的⼈⽣。除了羡慕，可能还会让我们质疑⾃⼰的能⼒，久⽽久之，形成很多负⾯情绪。
本期TED演讲，Dean Furness将通过他的亲⾝经历为我们讲述如何才能超越⾃⼰，⼀起来看看吧！
△温馨提⽰：视频时长12分00秒，在WIFI环境下观看哦~
个⼈平均值
It seems we have been measured almost all of our lives, when we are infants, with our height and our weight, and as we grew it became our speed and our strength.
我们的⼀⽣似乎都在被不同的指标来测量，在婴⼉时，就量⾝⾼和体重，⽽长⼤后，就量速度和耐⼒。
And even in school there are test scores and today with our salaries and job performance.
甚⾄在学校，也有测试分数，如今，则是我们的⼯资和⼯作表现。
It seems as if those personal averages are almost always used to measure where we are in comparison to our peers. And I think we should look at that a little differently.
似乎这些个⼈的平均数值总是被拿来与⾝边⼈的⽔平做⽐较。但我认为我们应该⽤略微不同的⽅式来看待它。
That personal average is just that, it's something very personal and it's for you, and I think if you focus on that and work to build that, you can really start to accomplish some really amazing things.
个⼈平均值是⾮常私⼈的，是你专属的，我认为如果你能专注于个⼈⽔平，并在此基础上努⼒提升⾃⼰，你真的会开始取得很多令⼈惊讶的成就。
忘记曾经的⾃⼰
Now you could be sure in those days I was being measured more than ever, by the doctors and nurses for sure but maybe more so in my own mind.
wifi分享毫⽆疑问，在那些⽇⼦⾥，我被测量的次数多得前所未有，肯定会有经常被医⽣和护⼠测量，但可能更多的是在我的脑海⾥。
And I found myself comparing what I thought I was going to be able to do going forward with what I once was able to do. And I became pretty frustrated.
我发现⾃⼰在⽐较从此之后⾃⼰能做到的事情和我曾经能做到的事情。因此我变得⾮常挫败。
It took some very consistent prodding from my wife, who kept saying, "Get your eyes up," before I could get moving forward.
我的妻⼦⼀直在对我说“抬起头来”，在她坚持不懈的⿎励下，我才开始了继续前⾏。
And I soon realized that I almost had to forget about the person I was before and the things I was able to do before. I almost had to pretend it was never me.
很快，我意识到我⼏乎不得不忘记曾经的⾃⼰，忘记曾经我能做到的事。我⼏乎不得不假装曾经的那个⼈不是我。
And I'm afraid if I had not made that realization, my frustration would have turned into something much harder to recover from.
如果我当初没有意识到这⼀点，恐怕我的挫败感会发展为其它更加难以康复的东西。
专注于⾃⼰
Now, as you can imagine, being in a wheelchair, let alone training for a marathon in a wheelchair, is a pretty lonely thing.
你可以想象，在轮椅上，更别说在轮椅上为马拉松进⾏训练，是⼀件相当孤独的事情。
And for the most part, you really have nothing to rely on but yourself in those times. It's my average, and I'm trying to get better little by little.
绝⼤多数时间，你真的别⽆选择，只能靠⾃⼰。这是我的平均值，每天我都在尝试⼀点点变得更好。
I'm working really hard every day to be better in so many other ways, a better parent, a better husband, a better coach, teammate, friend, person.
我每天都在⾮常努⼒，⼒求在其它各个⽅⾯变好，成为更好的家长、更好的丈夫、更好的教练、队友、朋友，更好的⼈。
And I promise you, even though what you see here is very visible in terms of the challenges that I face, everybody here has something that they're fighting.
我向你保证，即使你看到的我所⾯临的种种挑战都⾮常显⽽易见，这⾥的每个⼈都有在与之战⽃的东西。
And it may be visible, it may not be, but please, take some time and focus on you instead of others, and I bet you can win those challenges and really start accomplishing so many great things.
可能⾁眼可见，⼜可能不可见，但请花些时间，专注于⾃⼰，⽽⾮他⼈，我打赌你能战胜那些挑战，并真正地开始成就卓越。
我们常在与他⼈的⽐较中，变得沮丧、愤恨、不⽢。其实，当你不再执着与他⼈作⽐较时，⽽是将注意⼒集中于提升⾃⼰，或许你能战胜那些挑战。
⼈各有所长，我们往往只看到了别⼈⽐我们好的其中⼀⽅⾯，就全⾯否定⾃⼰。⼈们的确要往上看，但同时也要客观的看待所有⼈，以及你⾃⼰所处的位置。
每个⼈的风格、技能和特长是不同的，每个⼈都要好好去发掘你真正的优势是什么。也许你所擅长的也是其他⼈所缺乏的，因此要进⾏多⽅位的⾃我评价。
不去和他⼈⽐较，但你可以向他⼈学习。学习⼀些新的技能来提⾼⾃⼰，来获得⼀些发⾔权。在你⾃⼰的这条道路上，成为你想成为的那个⼈，做你真正想做的事情。
It doesn't matter how many times you fail. You only have to be right once and then everyone can tell you that you are an overnight success.
你失败⼏次不重要，你只需要做对⼀次，然后其他⼈都会说你⼀⼣成功。
——Mark Cuban
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